75 Quotes about Adoption - by Adoptees, Birth & Adoptive Parents

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“There is…nothing to suggest that mothering cannot be shared by several people.” – H. R. Schaffer

I was chosen. I was wanted. I was cherished. I grew in their hearts. I was the missing piece. I was loved. I was adopted. - Unknown

Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation. Robert A. Heinlein

Adoption is when a child grew in its mommy's heart instead of her tummy. - Unknown



“You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”

LEGACY OF AN ADOPTED CHILD
Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother

Two different lives shaped to make you one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun

The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it

One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you a talent, the other gave you aim

One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried you tears

One made an adoption plan, that was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.

Now, which of these two women, Are you the product of?
Both, my darling, Both, Just two different types of love.

– Unknown

Love you all the time - Alisa, Adoptive Mom

“Not of my flesh, nor of my bone, But still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, you didn’t grow in my heart, but in it.” – Unknown

“Time and experience have taught me a priceless lesson: Any child you take for your own becomes your own if you give of yourself to that child. I have born two children and had seven others by adoption, and they are all my children, equally beloved and precious.” – Dale Evans, adoptive mother

“It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other.” – Joan McNamara

“We look at adoption as a very sacred exchange. It was not done lightly on either side. I would dedicate my life to this child.” – Jamie Lee Curtis, adoptive mother


“He who can reach a child’s heart can reach the worlds heart.” – Rudyard Kipling

“Somehow destiny comes into play. These children end up with you and you end up with them. It’s something quite magical.” – Nicole Kidman, adoptive mother

“To be ignorant of what happened before you were born is to be ever a child.” – Cicero

“Both the courage and trust of those who decide to place their babies for adoption and the enthusiasm of those who adopt them are overwhelmingly vindicated by the tens of thousands of successful adoptions that take place in this country every year.” – The New Yorker in an editorial

“To give them what I never had heals me. Some days I look at them and almost start to cry. I think, how can I love them more than I did the day before? But it keeps growing.” – Rosie O’Donnell, adoptive mother

“Nothing that you have not given away will ever truly be yours.” – C.S. Lewis

“Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.” – Alfie Kohn

“The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears.” – Ellen Goodman

“Your children need your presence more than your presents.” – Jesse Jackson, Adoptee

"I am promising:

To have and to hold from this day forward.
I will always be on your team, in your corner cheering you on.  Today I make a vow to you that I will try every day to be the best parent I can be for you.

For better or for worse.
In rejection.  In pain.  In sleepless nights.  In joyous mornings.  In victories won and hard-fought battles lost, I will still be your parent.

For richer or for poorer.
We're in it together if I lose my job or become a millionaire, I will always take care of you.

In sickness and in health.
In cancer, in autism, in spelling-bees, in honor rolls and in the thick of the stomach flu, I am not going to walk away.

To love and to cherish.
My heart is on the line.  I promise to be present both physically and emotionally to you and to give you just as many hugs as you need, plus a few extra.

Till death do us part.
This commitment is for life baby.  Yours and mine.  Whichever one ends first, I am in it for the long haul."

-Alisa, Adoptive Parent

“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.” – Joyce Maynard

“Having a child means a piece of your heart is walking around in the world.” -Unknown

“There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.” – Hodding Carter, Jr.

“It’s not what you leave to your children, it’s what you leave in your children.” – Unknown

“A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child.” – Forest E. Witcraft

“All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller

“He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine, and so together, we are motherhood.” – Desha Wood

“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” – Morrie Schwartz

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” – Angela Schindt

“Having been adopted, I really have a strong sense- a necessity almost- for stability, a foundation where my family is concerned. [Success] would be meaningless without anyone to share it with.” – Faith Hill, Adoptee

“I have a lot of respect for my birth mother… I know she must have had a lot of love for me to want to give what she felt was a better chance.” – Faith Hill, Adoptee

“I am a living testament you can be adopted and successful.” – Daunte Culpepper, Adoptee

“We must work tirelessly to make sure that every boy and girl in America who is up for adoption has a family waiting to reach him or her. This is a season of miracles, and perhaps there is no greater miracle than finding a loving home for a child who needs one.” – President Bill Clinton, Adoptee

“I am convinced, completely convinced, that there was nothing random about [the adoption], she is the daughter I should have.” – Meg Ryan, adoptive parent

I think adoption is a blessing all around when it's done right. - Hugh Jackman

However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle. - Valerie Harper

Being a parent wasn't just about bearing a child. It was about bearing witness to its life. -Jodi Picoult

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. -Richard Bach

Adopting any child is a walk into the unknown. It takes Faith. - Unknown

Little souls find their way to you, whether their from your womb or someone else’s. - Sheryl Crow

It's important to realize that we adopt not because we are rescuers. No, we adopt because we are rescued. - David Platt

We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child. -James L. Gritter

They may not have my eyes, they may not have my smile, but they have all my heart. -unknown

A child born to another woman calls me mom. The depth of the tragedy and the magnitude of the privilege are not lost on me. -Jody Landers

Families don't have to match. You don't have to look like someone else to love them. -Leigh Anne Tuohy

Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone, but still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, you didn't grow under my heart but in it. - Fleur Conkling Heyliger

Family is not defined by our genes, it is built and maintained through love. - Amalia G.

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them. - Desmond Tutu

Adoption is not the call to have the perfect, rosy family. It is the call to give love, mercy, and patience. - Hope For Orphans

Adoptive Mom? I am Mom. I need no other label or prefix. - Joanne Greco

“The circumstances surrounding your birth are not as important as the opportunity to live life.” ― Lailah Gifty Akita

“Adoption is a beautiful, burdensome blessing.” ― Jody Cantrell Dyer

“Destiny is not always preordained. Life is about making choices. Our lives are the sum of all the choices we make, the bridges we cross, and the ones we burn. Our souls cast long shadows over many people, even after we are gone. Fate, luck, and providence are the consequence of our freedom of choice, not the determinants. When justice is served by following our principles, making good decisions brings us inner peace.” ― Judith Land

“A birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.”— Skye Hardwick

“The hardest decisions we make are often the best decisions we make. It just takes a little while to feel their benefits. But, just like flower seeds in the soil, they show themselves at the right time.”— Butterflies and Pebbles

“Adoption isn't a birthmother's rejection but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby” — Mary Hines, Birthmother

“Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.” — Judy Belmont

“If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them not you." — Talitha

“Giving birth does not make a mother…Placing a child for adoption does not make her less of one.” — Unknown

“I once heard a girl who had decided to parent her child say, “My baby’s the best thing that ever happened to me.” I believed her. But I wanted to ask, “Are you the best thing that could’ve happened to your baby?” …Had I loved (my son) any less—one ounce less—he would be with me now! My love for him was the only thing that could enable me to break my own heart. I didn’t just feel love; I did what love dictated.” — Tamra

“Children and mothers never truly part, bound together by the beating of one another’s heart.” — Charlotte Gray

“Children need two things. One is roots and the other is wings.” — Unknown

“We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child.” — Jim Gritter

“To attain to a place of acceptance of an adoption decision is an honorable goal, but often an arduous journey.” — Sandra Cantrell

“He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine, and so together, we are motherhood.” — Desha Woodall

“There are two different kinds of strength. There’s the strength to make a parenting plan and then there’s the strength to give that plan to another.” — Unknown

Adoption carries the added dimension of connection not only to your own tribe but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties, and family. It is the larger embrace. -Isabella Rossellini

There are times when the adoption process is exhausting and painful and makes you want to scream. But, I am told, so does childbirth. -Scott Simon

Every child deserves a home and love. Period. -Dave Thomas

If you have a heart for adoption don't let fear stand in the way. -Doug Chapman

Adopting one child won't change the world: but for that child, the world will change. -unknown

My birth mother brought me into this world, but it was my adoptive parents who gave me life. -Christina Romo

By choice, we have become a family, first in our hearts, and finally in breath and being. Great expectations are good; great experiences are better. -Richard Fischer

Adoption is not about finding children for families, it's about finding families for children. -Joyce Maguire Pavao

Adoption comes from the heart, but the adoption process comes from the Law. You should follow your heart, but be sure you also follow the law. -Irina O'Rear

Children and mothers never truly part, bound together by the beating of one another's heart. -Charlotte Gray